Last weekend we taught the “Mythos Showa” workshop in Kinbaku Lounge which was very transformative for us, leaving behind some inhibitions, daring to show ourselves a bit more.
I’m never tired of saying there are many different ways to play with ropes. I submitted a piece on “Metamorphosis of Power” for Kinbaku Society of Berlin magazine. It was very enlightening to learn how different our expressions, fantasies, and dynamics can be. It is very important to see everything that the “educators” bring to you through the lens that they are first and foremost people looking for their way. It might be true for you or not. The most they can do is inspire and hold space for you to make your explorations. No one can define what rope is about or what you should feel.
My partner’s exploration is fantasy-driven. I don’t have any… It doesn’t work for me. I’m just physical, I’m “somatic”, my friends make fun of me. I just feel a lot of different things in my body when I’m tied up.
And it’s a completely different angle of exploration. For me, it has become a quest for honesty, for integrity… In a sense of noticing what is happening in my body, what I am feeling. Or not feeling! And being honest about it.
And it is not always easy to be honest, even silently, with ourselves. Maybe we like things to work, maybe we like to get along with what we think is expected of us, and so on. Many reasons to conveniently overlook what is really there.
But if we commit to feeling what we feel. And show it. Share it with the people who are there. Then I think you come into a magical space where a lot of truth and spontaneity happens. And bringing depth into your play – if you wish to.
And here is a bit back to last week’s topic, about the role of rope bottoms. What is my role, apart from being an object in a fantasy? – I keep asking myself, as probably many of you do. Maybe there is nothing more than feeling it and being honest about what you feel…